The quality of our life's experience starts with the quality of the questions we pose to ourselves whenever we encounter a problem.
A question framed in the positive, solution-seeking way will lead to a better answer than a question framed in the negative. Asking "why do bad things always happen to me?" leads to a negative spiral of thoughts and beliefs. A negative mindset cannot see solutions and possibilities as clearly as a positive mindset, such as "how can I learn from this and become stronger so as to prevent it from happening again?".... or "how can I use this to best advantage?".
Having a positive mindset and taking responsibility for the role we play in shaping our lives leads to more meaningful, empowered, purpose-driven actions and outcomes.